Do you, like me, believe that the sanction of marriage is pure and forever? Do you believe that divorce is wrong and you should never get divorced? We have been taught to just deal with or get help with what ever is going on in our marriages. This is somewhat true and somewhat misunderstood. What I am going to share with you is straight from experience. I want you to know that I am not telling you what someone else learned or went through but my learning, dealings, and experience through my divorce. In short I hope some of my experience can help you out in your life.

One thing is for sure when you get married it needs to be with who God has for you or there is going to be hardship and even divorce. The second thing is that God loves you and only wants the best for you. I married a person, had two wonderful boys and really thought I was doing the right thing. But I was very unhappy. He was gone a lot, living with other people all the time, and dating another woman. I thought during this time he was away because he was in the navy. I was wrong, clueless. But Our MIGHTY God, of course, knew all that was going on. I started back to church. Then my ex-husband came and said he wanted a divorce. I talked with my pastor and family. I told them everything and we prayed. I finally agreed to the divorce, but it was after I tried to get him to come with me or go himself to a counselor or the pastor. I read some verses that the pastor shared with me.

I would like to share those verses with you. They are: Mathew 19:1-9, Matthew 28:20, Proverbs 15:18, Proverb 31:10-31. Then there is Ecclesiastes 3:1-15,18and 17, Philippians 3:13-14, Phil. 1:6. They helped me through a hard time.

Right now you may be feeling anger, frustrations, loss of hope, loss of love, loneliness, barren, sad, abandoned, betrayed, and lied to. God is not allowing his child to feel all this and more for no reason. God teaches you through every emotion and in every tear you shed. He also teaches others around you. They learn compassion through them seeing you go through what you're facing or have faced. There also is a tear shed with you in heaven from God. He feels what you feel; he hurts not just beside you but for you. You are becoming strong and wise with every thing you are learning to face and deal with. Another thing to remember is that God is not out to hurt you, but there are things we put in our lives that come between God and his child. These things even threaten to take away his beloved child. As any parent would do, God sometimes needs to get rid of whatever person, place, or thing is standing in the way of Him loving on us. God, in is own timing, heals us. We are the ones that prolong it by thinking we’re fine and moving on without God or with God but down the wrong path. We, of course fall again. As any good parent though, God picks us up, brushes us off, and tells us to follow him ( hold my hand as you or your mom or dad has once done; or a family member and even a friend).

We need to put our faith in God our Father. He is our strength, protector, and guider. He is our everything. Even though we feel the way we do, it's so very important to remember God is not our “ex”. God is perfect and will not hurt us, let go of our hand, nor betray us. He never leaves us, never has, never will. We are his children and no one loves his children more then the man who gave his own son to die so that we may live with him in eternal life with peace, joy, happiness, song and praise.
He will get you through this hard mess of things that you’re going through. Just remember to hold on and know that he is there even if you don't think you hear him or feel him or see him working. He is looking out for you and always will.